Do you feel that the work you produce is never good enough? Do you work endlessly on projects or run them right up to the deadline? Is it hard for you to even start on a project because you fear it won’t be good enough? Do you sit staring at your computer, unable to get going? Do you feel that your appearance, your home, or your children must be perfect or else you are a failure? Do you believe that making a mistake is the worst thing you can do?
If you answered yes to some of these questions, you may be one of the many people suffering from Perfectionism. If so, you have a need to be perfect that goes far beyond what is actually required for excellence. This overblown demand on yourself can get in the way of your getting jobs done on time because you spend far too much time on them. Alternatively, it can lead you to procrastinate and avoid working on projects.
Perfectionism can cause you to be uptight and worried much of the time. It can keep you from being relaxed and having fun and joy in life. It can unbalance your life because you spend far too much time on work or other attempts to be perfect, leaving little time for family, friends, love, and creativity.
Your need for perfection is probably based on fears are unconscious and come from unresolved childhood pain. Letting Go of Perfectionism will help you to understand and work through these fears. It will help you set up a practice for overcoming perfectionism so you can be more at ease.
As a result, you will be more present in each moment and less attached to outcomes. You’ll be able to complete your work without forcing it to be perfect, instead noticing when it feels “good enough” and allowing it to come to a natural completion. The book will help you do your work in a way that flows, so you can feel more pleasure and lightness. You’ll go through your life in a more relaxed way, without pushing, yet still making progress with your work. You’ll be able to take time for your other needs, such as socializing, relaxation, fun, and personal health.
In the end, you will be much more at ease as you produce excellent work, while having a balanced, relaxed, and happy life.
This book is based on the Pattern System, a comprehensive and detailed map of the human psyche.
Letting Go of Perfectionism is more than a book. It includes
* An online workbook
* An online quiz
* Recorded guided meditations
* An online community
Jay Earley, Ph.D., is a transformational psychologist, psychotherapist, group leader, author, teacher, and theorist.
He is a big-picture thinker and innovative psychological theorist. He studies psychotherapy in a comprehensive way to arrive at a depth understanding of the human psyche and the process of transformation. Jay is known the clarity of his teaching and writing, his creative methods of demonstrating complex ideas, and his detailed description of therapeutic technique. In his therapy work, people rely on Jay’s compassionate heart and sensitivity to group process. He has a deep understanding of the nature of therapeutic change and knows how to effect profound inner healing.
Jay focuses on Internal Family Systems Therapy in all aspects of his work. He is active in the IFS community, helping to train therapists and presenting workshops every year at the IFS conference. He teaches IFS to the general public as a practice for self-help and peer counseling. He also teaches a variety of classes and workshops applying IFS to specific psychological issues such as procrastination, communication, relationships, and the inner critic. He is the author of Self-Therapy: A Step-by-Step Guide to Inner Wholeness Using IFS, Self-Therapy for Your Inner Critic, and Resolving Inner Conflict. See his IFS website www.personal-growth-programs.com.
Jay is publishing a series of professional booklets on IFS, starting with Working with Anger in IFS. Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss are publishing a series of audio products related to IFS. The first are the IFS Basic Class, guided meditations, and IFS Demonstration Sessions. Click http://www.personal-growth-programs.com/store/ to see all of the books and audio products.
Dr. Earley has created the Pattern SystemSM, a method for understanding parts, behavior, healthy capacities, internal dynamics, and underlying psychological issues. It is useful for mapping the psyche, understanding how people act and relate to others, and guiding IFS work. He is publishing a series of books based on specific patterns, starting with Embracing Intimacy and Letting Go of Perfectionism. See the Pattern System website www.patternsystem.com.
Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss have engaged in a multi-year study of the Inner Critic and the best ways to work with this troublesome psychological issue, using IFS and other approaches. This has resulted in two books, Self-Therapy for Your Inner Critic and Activating Your Inner Champion Instead of Your Inner Critic.
Dr. Earley is nationally known for his innovation in the group psychotherapy field. His book, Interactive Group Therapy: Integrating Interpersonal, Action-Oriented, and Psychodynamic Approaches, Brunner/Mazel, describes his group therapy method in which people learn interpersonal relationship skills by working directly on their relationships with each other. During his ten years on the east coast, Jay was Director of the Group Therapy Center of Long Island, where he trained group therapists in this method. He has written a number of articles on interactive groups and made numerous presentations at regional and national psychotherapy conferences. He continues to lead interactive therapy groups in the Bay Area.
Jay offers Life Purpose Coaching, on finding your life purpose and making a difference in the world.
In Jay’s work with people, he is known for his empathy and his ability to understand a person’s feelings, issues, and world view without imposing his own personality or agenda. His insight into human motivation and psychological patterns enables him to help people understand both their strengths and how they block themselves from getting what they want.
His work grows out of his own life-long journey of personal growth, his interest in the nature of human consciousness, and his success in creating a passionate and satisfying life for himself. He has a loving, successful 25 year marriage and professional partnership with Bonnie Weiss. He is a long-time student of the Diamond Approach of A. H. Almaas, a spiritual path that integrates psychotherapy insights and techniques with wisdom traditions in a unique Western approach to spiritual realization.
Jay has a Ph.D. in psychology from Saybrook University and is a licensed psychologist in California (PSY6973). He has been in private practice as a psychotherapist since 1973.
As a result of his research on human social evolution and its relationship to our current global predicament, Jay has published a number of articles plus the book, Transforming Human Culture: Social Evolution and the Planetary Crisis, SUNY Press.
During the 1980’s, Jay studied with both Jean Houston and Joanna Macy. He was active in the peace movement as a member of Interhelp and Psychotherapists for Social Responsibility, where he led workshops which integrated psychological, spiritual, and planetary concerns. Out of this work came his book, Inner Journeys: A Guide to Personal and Social Transformation based on the Work of Jean Houston, published by Samuel Weiser, Inc.
Jay also has a Ph.D. in computer science from Carnegie-Mellon University and was formerly on the U.C. Berkeley faculty, where he published 12 computer science papers, one of which was voted one of the best 25 papers of the quarter century by the Communications of the A.C.M.