I bet your friends have plenty of advice on how to get over your ex! The question is which advice should you take? Or do you just wish to think it out for yourself? Wouldn’t it be great if someone could offer you professional help?
This book is the closest thing you are going to get to that all-important help – a manual of tried and tested techniques to help you get back to “a happier place” and moving on from a broken heart.
Imagine unlimited hours on a counselor’s couch gently sifting through the rubble of your love life. Taking it at your own pace, only opening the doors of your mind you felt you could open. Carefully separating your shattered dreams from torn realities and gradually putting your life back together.
The tools used in this book are not mysterious sources of wizardry. They are simply logical ways of examining thought pathways. Taking the emotion out of situations enables you to hold your relationship up to the light and to examine it from new angles. Letting go of your love life can be crippling, but with a little help it can become easier.
Eric Berrenson is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach living in California with his wife and two boys. His book, How to Get Over Your Ex: Finding Your Path to Heal, Build Confidence and Move On After a Breakup, gently works through the stages of how to get over a breakup. The book not only forces a reality check (kindly), but also prepares the reader for the inevitable process of moving on after a breakup.
Constructive exercises enable the reader to separate the tricks the love hormones are playing on their mind from logical investigations into what went wrong and why. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and it can always be improved, whether that is together or apart. The thought-provoking chapters encourage the reader to take responsibility for where they find themselves and help the reader to gain clarity, and build self-confidence (not only as an individual but in their capacity to be part of a successful couple in the future too).
How to Get Over Your Ex: Finding Your Path to Heal, Build Confidence and Move On After a Breakup is a journey to a better place; out of the dark torture of relationship and into the sunshine of new possibilities. All you need to do is take the first step. Just a small click, and leave the rest to Eric.
Targeted Age Group:: 18-50
What Inspired You to Write Your Book?
Breakups are always tough especially for the one being dumped. As for myself I’ve been on both sides of the relationship spectrum: I’ve been the dumper, and I’ve been the dumpee. Both sides suck, and when I did the dumping my heart was still broken, but I wrote this book especially for the dumpee, because let’s face it: being dumped is more difficult to handle. And I feel like a little extra support during this time can go a long way.
Right, forget those evenings in, boring your friends and trying hard to put a brave face on all of this. Right now, your best friend is you. It’s time to have a no-holds-barred discussion with yourself about what it is you really want. Grab a pen.
The purpose of this exercise is to really get those emotions out. This is just for you, so be as angry and uncensored as you need to be. If a word only had four letters, sobeit; get angry, get sad, get maudlin if you really must. It doesn’t matter how ugly this gets. In the immortal words of Shrek: “better out than in, I always say.”
Here, in your own private space, describe what your relationship with your lover was like. Why did it end? If you could have called the shots, what would your fairy tale have looked like?…and how close was this to what you really had?
If you are missing the good times, get them down too. Let everything flow through your hands onto the paper. Get it out, out, out. No need to try and stay in this little printed box, let it flow for reams if you need it to. No-one’s going to put you in detention for poor hand writing, so press as hard on that pen as you need (although perhaps a mat to protect mom’s mahogany dining table might be a plan!).
Scribble, scrawl, rage, and when you think you’ve got it all out….try to write some more. Purge your feelings, cleanse your soul. If you need to do a version of Bart Simpson’s lines on the board:
“He is a ~@/>”
“He is a ~@/>”
“He is a ~@/>”
Feel free! You’ll be amazed how cathartic it can be.
About the Author:
Eric Berrenson is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach living in California with his wife and two boys. His book, How to Get Over Your Ex: Finding Your Path to Heal, Build Confidence and Move On After a Breakup, gently works through the stages of how to get over a breakup.
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