The Modern Man’s Guide to Effortlessly Attracting the Women of Their Dreams — Build Confidence & Attraction, Eliminate Negative Thinking, & Manage Insecurity for Healthy Relationships & a Fulfilling Social Life!
Are you tired of never getting the girl but instead just ending in the friendzone every time?
Do you lose confidence ad spiral into a blubbering mess when faced with a beautiful woman?
Do you want to control your life, build self-esteem, and FINALLY learn how to attract women?
Then you are in the right place.
Targeted Age Group:: 30-55
What Inspired You to Write Your Book?
I became a teacher from University and spent a long time helping to teach children. I did this whilst running bars and nightclubs and it became clear to me the amount of men that were terrified of talking to women. So when I began working in Public Relations and Marketing I began to see patterns that we can display in order to appear more attractive. How can you show your best self ? I then spent time conducting research and bringing together all of my experience into one place- the book. I wanted a book that would help men that are scared of dating to go through the entire process. It takes you all the way from before you meet a woman through building attraction, then to closing the deal, and even giving them advice on how to behave in the bedroom. I wanted to holistically develop the man for him to become better and more attractive.
Chapter 1 – Why the Modern Man Is Wrong
The modern man according to the mainstream media is many things; sensitive, empathetic, understanding, and above all else anti-toxic masculinity. The problem lies in this is not a man, this is a narrow view of a small subsect of “third-wave feminism” that wishes to impose their meaning of manhood onto the opposite gender. The worse of this being that many don’t even like men so why on earth would you want to appeal to them?
Toxic masculinity was introduced to us by Shepherd Bliss, the Mythopoetic Men’s Movement activist who was active within the 1980s in his mission for men to become more in touch with themselves pre-industrial revolution. Since then the term has made the rounds on social media, as flocks of scorned women tweet and post until their heart's content as they feel wronged by a former lover.
Just as another famous phrase the line from William Congreve's 1697 poem The Mourning Bride “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” is a paraphrase (although many would argue accurately) so too has toxic masculinity been twisted and formed to suit a meaning with which to bludgeon all men that behave in a way which does not resemble the level of worship they think they deserve according to their favourite Instagram account.
The prevailing question from this however is – “Why are women so attracted to it?”
This my friend I can explain.
Buckle up. Take a deep breath.
We are about to take a deep dive into the truth.
Contrary to popular belief we are not too dissimilar from our prehistoric ancestors. In fact, our internal hardwiring is almost the same. We share the same two innate fears now as we always have: the fear of falling and the fear of loud sounds. The fear of falling is an instinct necessary for the survival of many species. The fear of loud sounds triggers what’s called your Acoustic Startle Reflex, this is the phenomenon where you duck down and cover your head.
Such internal hardwiring is necessary to our survival and eventual replication. It however isn’t the only one and men and women have different needs.
Women are blessed with a purpose in life since the day they were born. They naturally possess something no man ever has or ever will. The ability to reproduce. Women are therefore born with replication value.
Men this purposeless creature spend an aeon attempting to figure out what they are useful for and their meaning whilst on this earth. Since the pre-historic times, men however brought with them one unique trait that made them worth keeping around. That is their ability to help themselves and others survive. Men, therefore, have survival value.
It makes sense then that each gender seeks to help balance its inadequacies. Women, historically, sought survival value in men. Men seek replication value in women.
Women used to need men.
Men still need women.
Here we see the power imbalance. As modern technology and the changing of the industry have meant that women have broken free of the “shackles of marriage” and can now work, feed, clothe and survive pretty well all by themselves, many men have felt lost.
But fear not, all is not lost. Women still seek survival value in men just as you seek replication value in women. They however are no longer so desperate in their pursuit nor so urgent is their need. It is however hardwired into them to seek such value and we will describe how we look for this value next.
When men see replication value in a woman this trip their Attraction Switches just as when a woman sees survival value in a man it trips hers.
Replication value in women is easily presented. Men naturally seek an array of things that point to a woman having high replication value. The following are indicators of health. They suggest that a woman will be more successful in giving birth and producing healthy children with which a man can continue his genetic pool. After all, he cannot do it himself so he must seek a mate that can help.
Long hair is a definer of health, it shows to a man that a woman is healthy and will probably survive childbirth. Have you never seen tangled? Long hair has throughout history been drawn, sculptured, and painted to indicate beauty on a woman. Not attracted to women with long hair. Fine, the global hair wigs and extension market is expected to grow at over 8% during the period 2018-2024 this means the global hair extension market is expected to reach over $5 billion by 2024. Do you think women would be spending so much money if they thought it lowered their chances to attract guys?
Facial Symmetry is another one of the Male Attraction Switches. Since the publication of “Facial Symmetry and The Perception of Beauty” in 1998, we have long known that both genders find someone with a more symmetrical face more aesthetically pleasing. Here again, women are way ahead of men on knowing how to use this to their advantage. Even before the rise in aesthetic procedures, since Egyptian times, women have managed to manipulate their faces to drive men wild. Enter here – Makeup.
If you thought the hair extension market was surprising, then wait until you get a load of this. In 2024, the global make-up market is estimated to be worth about 85 billion U.S. dollars. Even today be the most recent census in 2016 the U.S. cosmetic industry is projected to generate revenues of more than 60 billion U.S. dollars and employ about 63,816 people as of 2016.
The rise of YouTube and Tik Tok has allowed women to share skills, talents, and tutorials to enable even the most amateur of appliers to contour their face so well that they can resemble almost anything they so wish.
Many a man has been lured in by an artisan’s talents at makeup only to find out the next morning with a hangover they look utterly different. Is it wrong? Of course not, they are only flicking your attraction switches because they know exactly how to do it. Don’t fret soon you’ll know how to flick theirs.
Another attraction switch that signals replications value in a woman is childbearing hips. Now hang on before I hear you screaming “I have never once looked at a woman and thought what lovely childbearing hips!”. This is almost certainly true. And if you did frankly, I would be worried. However, we have spoken about how this is hard-wired into your brain. It’s in the subconscious and it manifests itself very simple. Your attraction switch for childbearing hips presents itself as your admiration for a nice booty.
That’s right, men like women with nice butts. Those things right around where your hips are. Who’d of thought it! Crazy isn’t it.
Now I know what you’re thinking, Jack this is great, but I ALREADY KNOW what I am attracted to, I want to know what flicks women’s attraction switches. Patience we will get there, but it is vital to understand your enemy (I jest). To properly stimulate her attraction switches you must first see how she does it to you.
The final and perhaps the most well-known of these attraction switches are often staring us in the face. Right below women’s noses. I am of course referring to men’s fascination with breasts. Now Freud would give us some disturbing rant on why men love boobs very much, and he may be right, or he may be wrong.
One thing we do know is that men do not naturally have boobs. Unless they are very overweight. Even then they are not the same as those wonderfully formed objects on a female’s chest. The opposite sex is of course aware of the mystic powers that boobs have over men and have done many things over the years to take full advantage of the spell they can cast. Unbuttoned tops push up bras, breast implants, and the newest of trends the under-boob top.
All of this alludes to maximise the power these assets have over men.
Hardwired speaking there could be two distinct reasons why men love breasts. One, simply, we don’t have them. We want what we don’t have. Women have breasts and Men in their infinite jealousy want to enjoy them as well.
Another and perhaps more plausible theory is that in the relationship between the breast nurturing children. Men seeing larger breasts as being able to nourish offspring. This goes back to men seeking replication value in a woman as they cannot do this themselves. The main job of breasts, of course, is to feed offspring. Some researchers think that sexual interest in breasts simply hijacks the breastfeeding circuitry and uses it for another purpose.
I am not alone in this. Dr. Larry Young of Emory University who is a professor in the field of psychology has written on the neurological basis of complex social behaviours. In doing so he believes that human evolution has harnessed an ancient neural circuit that originally evolved to strengthen the mother-infant bond during breastfeeding. This has now been hijacked to strengthen the bond between couples as well. The result? Men, like babies, love breasts.
In fact, a quick google search will bring up a multitude of journal articles on the studies of men’s fascination with breasts. Something for some late-night reading. One interesting study however is on how breasts as a symbol of fertility may be almost right. A 2004 study in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B even found that women with large breasts have higher levels of the hormone estradiol mid-cycle, which could increase fertility. Maybe there is a method in the madness and our ancestors had more to them than a mildly strange obsession with two fat deposits on a female’s chest.
We will come back to this later when we compare men and female attraction switches. Hint men are very visual. Women are not.
Females as stated before do not seek replication value in a man as they have no need. They can replicate fine all by themselves (with a donor). They instead seek survival value in men. Now cast your minds back to life in prehistoric times. You are a woman of value and you are seeking a mate, what is your number one aim when finding a mate? Probably to choose one that’s going to help you survive and who is going to survive themselves.
Why? Well for starters back then when you became pregnant and probably for the first few years after childbirth, you were extremely vulnerable. You could not hunt and forage for yourself as you needed to look after your offspring. Now I am yet to hunt in general, but I imagine it would be somewhat difficult to track deer, avoid sabretooth tigers and breastfeed all in the same hour. There are of course remarkable women that anthropologists have shown that can carry their young and hunt and forage, but these almost always work together in large groups and are in no way isolated. Often these are part of larger tribes with males in. In these cases, the women hunt because the men are off making war, so society’s not devoid of men.
Back to the cave now. You’re a woman and you’ve decided to lay down with a man who you think has got a good chance of keeping you alive. How did you come to this decision? Well, he ticked a few of your Attraction Switches of course. Let’s explore these now.
Men as we have explored are very simple. The good news is women aren’t that much more complicated. You’ve just got to know what their Attraction Switches are.
Women’s attraction switches differed from men as they are not looking for men to demonstrate the ability to replicate, after all, we can’t. Instead, they are looking to see signs that this particular male that’s swooned over the bar after downing his “woo woo jug” from Wetherspoons can survive out there in the real world (note never actually approach a woman like this). So how do they determine this? Well, they are hard-wired to pick up on social cues and notice triggers that turn on that emotional circuitry that’s been around since they were deciding whether to let Barney Rubble take them out or not.
So, what kind of things are they looking for? What’s going to make their bedrock? Let me explain.
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