“Everything Will Be Fine”
“There’s No Way This Will Work!”
“Why Does This Always Happen To Me”?
These are just a few examples of positive and negative self-talk that you have probably said to yourself hundreds of times.
You do it when you are nervous, you do with when you are happy, you do it when you are frustrated. And it affects your decision-making process.
Self talk has a huge impact on your life, even if you do not see it right away. It can cripple your confidence or give you that extra oomph to reach your goals.
It can make or break you.
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“Are You Talking To Me?”
Talking to yourself and learning how to listen will get you one step closer to understanding how to rewire your brain, hack your self-talk, and use it to thrust yourself towards your goals.
Just like watching a movie with “director’s commentary”, self-talk is always there to comment on your actions, thoughts, emotions, and decisions.
That’s why it’s extremely important to regain control over your self-talk and even learn how to turn down its volume.
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Self-talk, aka intrapersonal communication, is your internal use of speech and language. It appears in the form of thoughts that you can “hear” with the auditory part of your brain.
It can also include speaking to yourself out loud. Which is totally normal, I promise. Well, unless you’re experiencing hallucinations and hearing voices, in which case it could be a serious problem requiring the attention of a mental health professional. But maybe you don’t want to do it when others are around. Definitely avoid mumbling to yourself as you walk down the street or browse the aisles in the supermarket.
(See? We’re only getting started and already you have actionable advice for how not to self-talk. You’re welcome.)
If you still don’t get what I’m talking about, notice what happens as you’re reading these words. Read them silently, but pay attention to your thoughts. Do you “hear” the words in your head as you read them? That’s also self-talk. If you’re like most people, you use the same inner voice to speak to yourself in a variety of situations virtually all the time.
Much of the time, we don’t really notice our self-talk, so it’s this kind of half-conscious chatter going on at the edges of our awareness like smatterings of conversations in nearby cubicles at work. But we all listen in pretty regularly, as well. The conversation usually comments on ourselves, other people, and situations, which could be whatever is currently happening, or what did happen, or what we imagine is going to happen.
It’s like turning on the director’s commentary on a movie. There’s the actual movie, which is our experience, and then there’s whatever the director is saying about what’s on the screen, which is our self-talk. Or you can think of it like a sports announcer commenting on the game as it’s happening.
If you listen carefully, you’ll notice that this inner conversation reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn’t random. It exhibits patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs.
Some people’s self-talk is mostly about the future, while others’ is an internal dialogue about the past. Some self-talk tends to be positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh and critical. Or it can be defeatist, gloomy, and negative. Sometimes, self-talk is focused more on people; sometimes, it's fixated more on things. Sometimes, it’s mainly about others, and, sometimes, mainly about oneself.
One of the points we’ll hammer home again and again is that it’s important to listen to your self-talk and identify the patterns. If you do that, you’ll learn a lot of useful things about yourself. And you’ll figure out areas where you have a certain style of self-talk that’s having a negative impact on your life. Once you know that, you can do something about it by talking to yourself differently.
That’s important because negative self-talk is linked to negative emotional states such as anxiety, depression, insecurity, rumination, learned helplessness, and so on. In other words, a sense that life is too overwhelming, that you can’t do much to improve your condition, and even if there were something you could do, you’d probably fail. Obviously, that’s not a good place to be.
Positive self-talk, on the other hand, is linked with less negative emotion and more happiness, confidence, optimism, success in life, and a sense of agency and authorship of your own existence.
Okay, but how does that work? I’m going to argue that self-talk creates a feedback loop. What you put into it determines what comes out, and your reaction to that determines what you put into it the next time around. If you break a negative feedback loop by giving it a positive input instead, it will spin into a positive feedback loop. That creates a kind of snowball effect, which takes on a life of its own. Make a small, incremental change today, and it will gather momentum the next day, and the day after that, and the day after that… until you’re surprised at what you’ve accomplished.
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