Set up a chore system in your home using family meetings and encouragement to teach your children about teamwork, the priceless gift of self discipline and connect your family through family meetings.
Watch in amazement when children take the lead in family meetings and volunteer for jobs around the home. Parents can count on children to contribute while youngsters gain competence, confidence and learn to cooperate with others. Parents get a break from waiting on children. Children avoid entitlement through cleaning toilets, setting the table and helping with family projects.
Stories from contributors across the country describe how childhood chores impacted their lives, along with colorful examples to illustrate how to have a harmonious home by using family meetings, chores and dinner, along with encouragement, natural and logical consequences, setting limits with kindness and firmness, and mutual respect.
“Raising Able” is more than a handbook on children and chores. It lays the foundation for a positive family environment, healthy parent-child relationships, and the development of good decision making. It is the ultimate anti-entitlement guide because cleaning toilets and scooping up dog manure counteract entitlement. Parents will learn to influence tots-to-teens without bribery, threats, yelling, screaming, hitting or manipulation with money. Children will learn to contribute without getting paid by the chore.
Parents, educators and day care providers will learn new strategies to old challenges that nurture the child’s spirit, not stifle it, while learning responsibility.
The sensible guide is written by the mother of four children whose goal was to “Teach children to make good decisions when they were young so when they became teens and were 60 miles away going 60 miles an hour. They chose to wear a seatbelt, drive sober and have good friends. Implementing a chore system is a key component to teaching good decision making skills,” according to Susan Tordella, M.A., a parenting workshop leader, former journalist, program director, fulltime mother and homemaker.
“The whole family benefits from chores, which identify a place in the family for each child to belong, contribute and feel good about themselves. My survey to more than 500 people ages 11 to 90 affirmed that chores teach responsibility and create family unity,” said Susan. The bonus is that mothers and fathers can retire from being the family servant and set a team work environment where everyone benefits.
Susan Tordella is the author of “Raising Able: How chores empower families,” writes a blog at www.raisingable.com, offers workshops and speaks on positive parenting, and can be heard on Monday mornings at WCAP 980 AM at 10:15 am as The Parenting Expert.” She specializes in coaching parents to manage their emotions and behavior to influence children to make better decisions. Susan advises parents to use the first dozen years to nurture children to become teenagers who will make good decisions when they’re 60 miles away, going 60 miles an hour. Susan is the author of
Susan has led parenting skills workshops for more than a decade in Massachusetts and Delaware. “I taught what I most needed to learn. My best teaching tool still is to show people what I learned from mistakes, and I made plenty,” she said.
Susan teaches parenting strategies to parents of tots to teens. Parents who follow her Adlerian-based guidelines will create a more harmonious family, improve communication, set kind and firm limits by using family meetings, all of which will nurture confident capable young people.
Susan managed her children, home and family for 17 years, in charge of everything from toilet training to driver training. Susan holds a bachelor’s degree in political science and a master’s degree in English and has attended many personal development workshops and Adlerian trainings.
“Parenting is THE most important role of our lives. What we do as parents establishes a parent-child relationship for life, and creates a legacy that will outlive us. Having used Adlerian principles for 30 years as a teacher and practitioner, I know they work. My ‘children’ are now ages 23 to 30 and the foundation we established still serves our adult-to-adult relationship. These skills make a huge difference in every family, especially when dealing with difficult children,” Susan said.
She directed a private-non-profit for three years, promoting carpooling to Fortune 500 employees, “which is like selling dieting,” Susan said.
As a journalist, Susan worked as a reporter then an editor of community newspapers for five years, while having a house full of teenagers at home, including foreign exchange students.
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