Break free from the trauma of your breakup! Get past your divorce.
What if taking 5 simple steps could mean you felt whole, safe and cared for? Imagine a life where you are happy and have made peace with your divorce? See how to get back in control and create the life you dream of.
Bestselling author and qualified practitioner, Sara Gibbons has been a lifestyle strategist and health coach for over 20 years and has successfully helped hundreds of clients improve and move on in their lives during this time. Having been through a painful and debilitating divorce herself and come out the other side with a huge passion for and delight in life, her purpose here is to guide you and help you manifest what you really want for yourself.
In this book you will learn:
• How to recognise the value of you, leading to greater self-worth
• How to utilise new understandings of what has been happening, giving you peace
• How to find the root cause of your problems, leading to greater acceptance
• How to develop your vision for the future and create the life you want with joy
• How to get the support you need, opening you up to an abundance of love
‘Rise Again After Divorce’ is for you whether you’re feeling helpless and hopeless about your divorce, want some tips to help understand more and make further improvements in your life or are most definitely ready to leave the past firmly where it belongs and move on in style.
This book will show you how to break through your struggles with ease.
Targeted Age Group:: 35 +
What Inspired You to Write Your Book?
This book was inspired by my own painful divorce.
I spent years trying to make sense of what happened and finding my own self-confidence again. I really wanted to write about everything I have learned so that someone else could have a shortcut and not have to take the long road I took.
It's actually not only a book for those who have experienced the breakup of a relationship, but useful for anyone facing any sort of trauma or difficult life situation, as it it's full of life skills. I've discovered it's not just for women either as a lot of men have told me how helpful they have found it.
Because my own divorce was so pivotal in setting me on the path of self-discovery and self-fulfilment it was the obvious place for my writing to start. However Rise Again After Divorce was always intended to be the first in the Help Your Cellves Empowerment series, with follow-ups covering health, work and personal development issues.
I have so many ideas for my next books I'm going to have to be very disciplined to choose one and stick with it until it's published, and then onto the next, otherwise I'm going to end up with a drawer full of unfinished manuscripts!
What Happened to the Fairytale?
Look good, feel good. Own your space.
– Jo Le-Rose
You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the entire ocean in one drop.
If a relationship break-up has shattered you, this book was written for you, no matter what the reasons behind your break-up are.
I am going to share not only how to find peace and resolution in the aftermath of your break-up, but also how to move on and create the life you want. You might be feeling so raw that what I’m saying may seem impossible from where you are now.
I want to reassure you that it is entirely achievable. I’ve done it myself, and I’m going to show you how you can, too. We will go on a journey of self-discovery, so you can rise from the ashes stronger and with a greater understanding of what happened, why it happened, as well as gain a powerful sense of yourself and of your true magnificence. From here you will be able to create the life you want because simply put, you will see what you need to do to make it happen.
If this sounds too good to be true, and you feel that I can’t be talking about how to move on from your particular situation, then let me clarify.
Who is This Book Written For?
If you feel you are losing hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel, let me reassure you that you really can turn things around. All I ask is that you be willing and ready to make some changes and open to looking at things a different way. As Henry Ford said, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you always get what you’ve always got.” If you’re ready to make room for things to shift in your life and to have a different outcome from where you are now, then you are definitely in the right place to make that a reality.
This book is for you if you feel you have lost your sense of identity, and you are looking for independence from a situation in which you feel trapped or out of control. If you are ready to accept your situation rather than fight against it and if you want to stop the pain and ups and downs of the emotional roller coaster, this book is for you. It is for you if you are afraid of repeating past patterns and getting the same result over again and if you are feeling stuck and are asking yourself, ‘How can I let go of the past, forgive, and move on?’
It’s very common for people to come out of a marriage asking, ‘Who am I?’ It can feel as if you have somehow forfeited your sense of self while together. When the relationship ends, you are left disorientated and lost. We’ll be looking at why that happens and also how to change it, so you can build your self-confidence and self-esteem, and never lose your own identity again.
A break-up can also mean a lot of negativity is flying around. You want to put an end to it but can’t see a way of stopping it. Again, we will be looking at how you can approach these issues with new understanding and new eyes.
If your breakup was some time ago, you might consider that while you have recovered up to a point, and life is steadier than it once was, you are still left feeling vulnerable and bruised. There are things you remain unsure about as if something is missing, something you can’t quite define.
I will show you the tools you need to know to get the results you want. I have identified these from many years of personal research as well as experience from both my situation and from working with others. By following the approach here, you will be able to clarify your understanding and access your full power and potential.
We will look at:
• the importance of you and how nourishing yourself gives a greater sense of self-worth
• new understandings of what has been happening and why, so you can access the peace you crave
• the cause of why you find yourself where you are leading to both the healing of deep wounds and acceptance of your situation
• how to develop your vision for the future and create the life you want with joy
• the importance of support and how to get it, opening up to love in your life
In essence, this book is for you if you feel broken, adrift, unloved, guilty, angry, and fearful of the future. It is for you if you believe you have lost your sense of self and self-confidence. It is for you if you know there is more to life than you are experiencing and are ready to move on and access it for yourself.
You Are Not Alone
I want you to know that you are not alone in having all these painful feelings. While each person’s external situation is unique, many common threads run through them. You will discover that your internal world, how you feel and think about things, your emotions, worries, and responses to your situation, is very similar to others. This is good news, as it means you can benefit from learning how others have managed to move on from the pain.
It is not unusual to feel that what happened to us is the worst. Our own experience is, of course, incredibly painful for us individually.
A while ago I had a conversation with some friends who had all experienced distressing breakups. The first said hers was the worst because her husband had left her for a younger, taller, slimmer, prettier woman, an experience that made her feel inadequate. The next said no—it was even worse to be left, as she had been, for an older, shorter and fatter woman. The third said his wife had left him for another woman, which of course was a big blow for his masculinity. The last one said they had been left for no one at all.
It was evident to all of us that, no matter what the circumstances, our confidence, and self-esteem take a huge hit. Each person had a different external experience, but internally they all felt rejected and unworthy.
For those who have initiated the breakup, there can be similar common ground often based around an element of guilt, but ultimately also coming down to self-doubt and low self-esteem. For example, you might be asking, ‘If I had been different would it have happened this way?’ ‘Am I sure I couldn’t have done more?’ ‘I’m lonely in the relationship, and I’m lonely out of it, how can I deal with that?’ ‘If they change, or if I change, would we be able to make it work?’ ‘I’m afraid of the consequences of leaving; I might not be able to cope’ and so on. The question of whether to go or not, the yo-yo-ing, can go on for months or years.
From an early age, we are taught that if we follow the ways of society, our parents, our peers etc., we will be alright. We will be safe, secure, and everything will be ok. For example, we may have been told that if we get an education, get married, have kids, work hard, belong to a family, then we will be happy. If you are reading this because your relationship has broken up, it is likely you can already see this scenario for what it is, a whopping lie. And even if your life has followed such a pattern, you will know nothing is that simple, and there are undoubtedly limitations to the security and happiness that has been so easily promised to us.
On top of this, we’ve been fed a fairy tale idea of relationships, that we will meet Prince Charming, he will be The One, and when that happens, we will live happily ever after.
When a breakup happens, we question what we have been told–marriage is supposed to be for life–so why didn’t that happen? What went wrong? It’s not supposed to end in the turmoil of divorce. We can feel out of our depth and that no-one knows how to help us. We can think that we don’t fit in, that life has become something alien; we can feel lost and very alone while also likely trying to deal with non-loving, uncooperative and potentially even damaging behaviour from our former partner. We can wonder if we will ever be able to forgive and whether our future life will be full of resentment and bitterness.
Even if we are sceptical of that fairy tale, the imprint is still deep-rooted in the mass consciousness of our society and hard to break free from, albeit if we even knew what the real-life alternative is.
Well, there is an alternative, an amazingly sustainable one, and by the end of this book, you are going to not only know what it is but also how you can make it a reality in your own life.
The guidance and insights we are going to cover in this book,have led to dramatic life changes.
‘Thank you, Sara, I wouldn’t be where I am, and I couldn’t have done it without you. Thank you for what you do.’
– Michelle L, Chicago
‘Shock and change can paralyse. Sara’s focus is to empower you to step into the feelings of joy, freedom, and love.’
– Patricia D, UK
‘I now feel much more able to cope with the situation I am in. I feel stronger and more positive. Thank you, Sara, I am now moving forward in my new life.’
– Jenny H
But before we dive into the details of what the keys to your new life are, let me tell you something about myself.
When I first experienced my breakup, I felt utterly lost. We had been together for 16 years, and everything changed overnight. I didn’t know anyone who had experienced what I was going through, and I had no help or guidance to show me the way.
I seriously thought my life was over!
I cried, read self-help books, and cried some more. We had recently moved to a new area of the country, and I had no-one to speak to about the turmoil I was in. I lost my home and my security.
I started counselling, began to get glimmers of hope, and I thought things were getting better. Then they got a whole lot worse again. I continued my searching for answers.
Over time, my old life began to fade away and a new one to emerge. Hope began. My office job was no longer a reflection of the new person that I was, so I left it and set up my own business and therapy centre. I continued to research and to train in various therapies and disciplines, and over time, the pain began to diminish and understanding and confidence to grow.
Fast forward to today, and my life looks very different from the one I had before and soon after the breakup.
I live where I have always dreamed of living, by the sea. I have abundant friends with whom I travel the world. I love my work, and it gives me financial independence. I am probably as fit and healthy as I have ever been in my life, and my confidence is where it should be. Above all, I am happy and experience real joy on a daily basis.
Now, I’m telling you all this not to brag but to assure you of what is possible. I promise you I was as low as one can be and still be on this planet. If I can turn things around, then I know 100 percent that, with the guidance here, you can too. Not only that, you will be able to do it a whole lot faster than I did.
After my marriage breakup, I got to a pivotal point in life. I had a choice: I could stay where I was, muddle through, not make any changes, and probably end up bitter as well as stuck. Or I could let go, embrace something new, and see where it took me. I think you know already which path I chose!
As a result, I have now been a natural health practitioner and lifestyle strategist for over 20 years and have successfully helped hundreds of clients improve and move on in their lives during this time. I was the founder and owner of The Practical Natural Therapy Centre in Harrogate, UK, have worked internationally, taught classes and groups, and worked with clients individually. I have training and qualifications in counselling and nutrition, as well as in a variety of healing therapies and disciplines.
What is more important than all of this is that I have discovered how to solve my problems and those of my clients, and that is what I want to share with you now. I know there is hope, and there is always a choice, wherever or whatever your situation. You can stay stuck and watch life get smaller and smaller, or you can embrace everything it has to offer and expand it beyond what you ever thought was possible.
I have learnt that life is never over, as they say until the fat lady sings. If you are prepared to embrace the new, the unknown, and the sometimes scary, these become the exciting, the fulfilling, the joyful, and even the new familiar.
It’s a beautiful world out there, and we have the gift of life to explore it and make the most of it.
It took me years to develop the skills and understanding that led to the life I have today. You can now do it in a fraction of the time it took me. I’m going to share the five essential keys you need to know to unlock your full potential and move on to the life you have always wanted and more. So don’t delay, get started, and see your life unfold.
If you’re ready to embrace the journey, let’s get going!
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