What inspired you to write your memoir?
To be honest, it was about holding a little bit of pain in my heart that I wanted to release. I felt I had carried around for too long this heavy cloak of events that weighed me down and if I could take it off and share some of what I had in side of me, maybe it would help me and hopefully comfort and help others. By no means has my life been awful, far from it but is has contained times of grief, depression and despair that at the time cut deeply. But those moments have taught me a lot and if someone else was going through these times of darkness, they may find comfort to know that there can be light and that they are not alone.
It was also about forgiveness. We have all made decisions that when we reflect back, may not have been the best options but it is done and too late to change it now but what we can do, is learn in time to accept these decisions and move on. Forgive ourselves and embrace each new day, whether it’s a great one, good one or damn awful. One Woman’s Private Life Shared has been my way of letting go and I hope it helps someone else too.
About your Book:
One Woman’s PRIVATE LIFE “SHARED” is a warm and approachable short read. Events taken from her own experiences, whether love, death & grief or the darkness of depression, from just one woman’s point of view. Offers an insight into sensitive and private subjects and her experience of the twists and turns life can bring at work or at home. Have you lost someone close unexpectedly? Struggled finding your career path but fought to become successful and true to yourself whilst coping with anxiety or depression? Reads like women chatting in the ladies! or friends getting together over a drink, with openness and honesty with a light and approachable touch. If you have dreams and aspirations and have had to cope with the troubles that life can deal you, with Life and Loss, you may find reading this helpful, to know you are not alone. With some helpful affirmations and tips then ‘One Woman’s PRIVATE LIFE “SHARED” will be a welcome companion and motivate you to be kind to yourself and remain strong to embrace life today and all it offers. You deserve to be Happy and Successful. Even if success if just about successfully getting through today.
How did you decide how to publish your book and where is it published through:
Being new to writing and publishing, I simply decided to start somewhere, as long as I started! I spent many an hour researching the best avenue to take and although I would love a traditional publisher to snap up my books, I also embraced the self-publishing route. Having full control to write, publish, promote and simply get it out there. I love waking up every day, knowing that my day is up to me and letting what is inside of me, appear in black and white. For me it was about taking the first steps and one step at a time, so Amazon has been perfect but will certainly over the coming months, explore other means.
How do you see writing a Memoir as different from writing other genres of books?
It's very personal if not frightening. To firstly have to take your mind back to perhaps some dark places in your life, then almost relive it before it appears as a chapter. Then once you have written it, you are filled with mixed emotions, of whether this was the right thing to do? Or what will people think and will they judge me?
When writing fiction, you almost gallop along with your characters taking sometimes things you know along the way but with a memoir you are the actual one on the horse, just you. It can leave you feeling quite vulnerable but at the same time, once it is written and you are happy with the final product, a real sense of release and relief.
Nikki is as she describes herself just ‘one woman’. Whether this be as a daughter, mother, wife or business entrepreneur. Through the different caps she wears like many other women, she has seen and experienced the highs and lows in life so far. She puts her hands up to struggling with ‘Life’ and anxiety and strives every day to find that ‘Happy’ place and even some days finds it! Nikki tries to find positive affirmations that help make life more comfortable to wear and if she can’t, she’ll put a twist of humour on things, as sometimes laughing is the only answer!
She has dealt with depression and post-natal depression and scrapped her way through her entrepreneurial avenues, and what she didn’t know, she has learnt along the way. Her books are short reads (which she prefers), that give an insight into parts of her life and lessons learnt.
When asked what kind of book does she enjoy to read, she replied ” Ones that I can either relate to, or gain something from and if it can be done in short chapters or fit into 10 minutes here and there, even better!…I like to think that I write, how I would either like to read or as if I was chatting to a good friend”.
There are currently 2 books in this series, with the first being ‘One Woman vs Life’ but along with wearing different caps, she admits to having a few sides, hence also writing Children stories and other fiction and non-fiction. Why box yourself in, when you can be anything you want to be?